Blogger: Madi Tsuji
I used to say commonly-heard things like, “the start of the year is so busy!,” “I’m still settling in,” and “I hate midterms week.” Now, in the middle of my fourth and final fall semester at Oxy, I’m realizing that all of the aforementioned statements are misleading. Yes, the start of the year is busy, but so is the rest of the semester. Yes, I am still settling in, but I will still be settling in until finals week, and then I’ll have to get used to a whole new schedule. And yes, I do hate midterms week, but midterms are really more aptly described as the season from the 3rd week of the semester to the 12th. And not only are the statements misleading, they are also commonly-given excuses.
We’re nearly at the halfway point of the semester, and after a summer of the 9-5 internship grind, the return to college feels remarkably and wonderfully chaotic. This semester, I’m nannying, working in the Office of Communications here at Oxy, a co-social chair for Alpha Lambda Phi Alpha and a big sister to many wonderful littles, and of course, taking a full course load. I’m so preoccupied planning the annual school-wide Toga event I wake up in cold sweats some nights, and I’m so busy fielding questions about boys (who pays on dates? How old are you supposed to be when you have your first kiss? How do you know if a boy likes you? Twelve year olds have a lot of questions) that I barely have time for a social life of my own. So yes, I’m busy. But being “busy” is not an excuse to miss out on “moments.”
For me, this semester has been about making time for and reveling in moments. Cheering on the football team and cheer squad at home games as loudly as possible, screaming songs at sorority events, going to get froyo with my little nuggets, and savoring every moment I get to sit on a bench in the sunny quad are just some of the ways I’m appreciating the time I have left at Oxy. We haven’t started calling things “the last one ever” yet, but graduation applications are due this week and the saliency, the reality of the situation is making a lot of us (read: me) more sentimental than we normally would be. I appreciate now more than ever all the times I sacrificed the little things for the really important “little things.”
I wish I had something more intelligent or profound to pass on to you, dear readers, but of course I’m too busy settling in and handling midterms to really think of anything worth saying. What I will leave you with is something I’ve said since day one: treasure good friends, skirt rules, laugh at yourself and laugh often. In five years, you won’t remember why that test or problem set mattered, but you will remember the glories and glee and utter contentment felt at sharing a moment with true friends.
Now if you’ll excuse me, there’s a bottle of wine downstairs waiting to be shared with some housemates.