"Exactly who you are right now is okay, and you qualify to stop violence."
Project S.A.F.E. at Occidental College truly believes in the power of numbers and the difference that bystanders can make in our community. Considering that most students, about 95%, may not ever perpetuate sexual violence, mobilizing the bystander population could be essential to ending violence on campus.
Acknowledging that there are potentially 40 bystanders to every 1 attempted or completed sexual assault; bystander behavior and intervention is one of our many approaches to preventing someone from having to go through such experience. At its essence, being an OXY Upstander, active bystander, community member, or however you choose to identify, is simply what we do.
Our OXY Upstander Intervention curriculum is upfront and practical. Adapted from a Green Dot community mobilization strategy, "Be Upfront, Distract, and Entrust" are some of the ways you can prevent someone from having to experience any violence.
If you are comfortable with confronting someone, let the person who is about to engage in high-risk behavior that there might be adverse consequences to their actions. This can sound like "Hey, I don't think they're comfortable with you right now," or "That's not right, are you ok?"
If you are not a confrontational person, create a distraction in order to prevent an incident from occurring and get the person safe. Be creative! You can say "Someone wants to see you outside," or "Hey, I think you dropped your phone back there!"
Let someone know. If you cannot "Be Upfront," or "Distract," ask a friend to intervene for you. Speak with professional staff, or your RA, remember there are also confidential staff members here on campus who can help as well. Get in touch with one to refer!
Check out how other students have become Oxy Upstanders!
- You don't have to do them all, but try, own your story and style.
- Tell a friend about what you learned from Project S.A.F.E. training.
- Look out for friends at parties and bars. Check in by asking, "Are you ok?"
- Support a friend who has been affected by power-based personal violence.
- On Facebook. Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, post a quote that gets people thinking about this issue.
- Invite a friend to go with you to a Project S.A.F.E. program or training.
- Wear a T-shirt, button, or pin that shows others that ending power-based violence is a big deal to you.
- Integrate information about any form of power-based violence into a class assignment.
- Make an announcement or coordinate an effort to get your student org trained.